THE IMPORTANCE OF THE JOURNEY TO WHOLENESS ~ PART 2

What Pain Fear Creates, Only Love Can Heal ❤️

Our Beloved Dance is the dance of wholeness. Over aeons, it has crafted itself into a medicine so potent, it alchemises us from the inside out, and the outside in. It does so in its essence, by unlocking the inner and outer parts of ourselves we have disconnected from.

Along the journey of life everyone will at some point disconnect from a part of themselves. Many a school of psychology has researched this, and many an ancient spirituality has documented it.

Some of us disconnect from our head;

displaying fogginess, a lack of mental agility and solid thinking capacity. A disconnection from our logic and intellect that is central to producing a fully expressed life. Losing our handle on our focus and conscious attention ~ our sacred power to create a life we love.

Some of us disconnect from our heart;

dissociating from our feelings, disconnecting from the guidance of our emotions, guidance that is designed to help us be authentically happy. Losing our ability to fully feel love, finding ourselves unable to make decisions based on what we love, not what we think we should do, to successfully follow our truth.

Some of us disconnect from our body;

living life from the neck up and suffering a lack of sensuality, pleasure and passion. Losing our ability to be in the moment, receive intuition, feel deep grounded self-possession, and experience more bliss and pleasure.

Some of us disconnect from our spirit;

forgetting that we are more than we seem, that not all is visible to the physical eye or audible to the physical ear. Losing our conscious connection to our Life Force Energy itself, our nonphysical support and our innate sovereignty, deeper meaning, and true personal power.

The way we dance our Beloved Dance shows us which parts of us we disconnected from.

The way we teach passes on our disconnection to our students.

The issue with this disconnection is best described in this ancient Indian saying:

“All humans live in a house with four rooms.

The head room. The heart room. The body room. The spirit

room.

If each room is not visited every day, if only to air it,

the person will not feel whole at the end of the day”.

As we are all born complete, whole, and perfect, equipped with everything we need to prosper and live a full, joyful, and personally meaningful life, a disconnection then leaves us in pain; the pain of knowing on some deep level that we are playing small, that there is a person inside us that is much wiser, more capable, more authentic and more brilliant than the one we show the world.

There is a person inside us that is much wiser, more capable, more authentic and more brilliant than the one we show the world.

This sets up a longing that can be so subtle it travels under the radar, but in quiet honest moments, it may be discerned. Is this why so many of us feel so scared to stop, breathe, and listen? Is this why we are all so busy all the time, always running?

We cannot keep running away from the pain that is trying to get us to stop and find our wholeness; we need to run towards it. We need to revisit the disconnection - as poet Robert Frost put it “The only way out, is through”. Belly Dance offers women a gentle yet effective bridge to finding the lost parts of ourselves and starting a journey to wholeness.

We cannot keep running away from the pain that is trying to get us to stop and find our wholeness; we need to run towards it.

Why do We Split Off from Our Wholeness?

Fear is what keeps us out of a Room in our being. Through experiences in our lives, we gather information, often in early childhood, about which Room is safe and which is not, which is favoured and which is criticised, which is approved of and which is taboo, which brings us attention and which causes us to be ignored …. and the process leads, over time, to shut down; anything from visiting a Room less and less, or even locking ourselves out of it altogether.

Fear is what keeps us out of a Room in our being.

Imagine, if the Indian adage is true for one single day, what would the cumulative negative effects of not entering, or spending quality time in, each Room our being be over time? Over years of the same habitual patterns of thought, emotions, and behaviour (and we are all creatures of pattern and habit), the effects can be anywhere from mildly disconcerting, to deeply disturbing or excruciatingly painful.

Ultimately if fear keeps us out of any specific part of our being, then love is what opens the door and lets us back in - leads us back to wholeness. Self-love that is. Not love from the outside. That can help - for a while, it might feel good. Until the unresolved negativity and fear inside affects us again. Self-love, and acceptance, and love of each Room in our being ~ of each part of us ~ is what allows us to travel back to our true selves.

Love is what opens the door and lets us back in. It leads us back to wholeness, Self-love, that is, and not love from the outside.

This journey back into a Room you’ve been locked out of requires new levels of consciousness and being very kind to yourself. You may encounter dust, clutter, and cobwebs. You may encounter skeletons. The curtains may not have been pulled back, and fresh air and sunlight may not have been allowed into that part of yourself, for some time now, maybe years, maybe decades of your life.

What happens in a room in the attic or the basement that gets locked up and not visited? That’s how our inner Rooms can be, when fear of entering that Room has stopped us from tending to, and enjoying, that part of our human make-up.

Just know that each Room is sacred. Inside each Room is your birthright and very own special gifts and nature. And it is in the integration of the neglected Rooms back into your life and dance that will make you feel whole, fulfilled, juicy, strong, grounded, inspired, and powerful again. Every human has these Rooms. Every human can feel this way.

However, there usually is a journey we must take to get to that integrated state. And kindness to self, and deepest self-care and self-love along that journey, is the only way anyone survives it.

Entering a Room one does not enter much, but does visit occasionally with their attention, can feel irritating, uncomfortable and be a very quick visit, while a voice from a more familiar and well-tended Room will call out to the person for their more habitual, and hence less resistant, attention.

Entering a Room one has not visited for years, the one that was locked up, that dark, musty, and dusty cob web-filled part of self, can be daunting or even terrifying. Emotional pain may have been left there on its own; unheard, unfelt, uncared for, unloved. The door may have been slammed on some trauma that was unbearable at the time. That’s what you might find once you unlock that door and re-enter. Tread slowly, carefully, and shine the torchlight of your consciousness and presence. Breathe and stay grounded. You can do this! But please remember to never force the door open; re-enter only when you feel inspired to when you feel ready.

Tread slowly, carefully, and shine the torchlight of your consciousness and presence. Breathe and stay grounded. You can do this!

Emotional pain is our emotional intelligence giving us guidance that something in the way we pay attention and are living is not in accordance to our personal truth ~ who we really are, our whole being. It may very well present itself, especially in the beginning of your journey towards your personal balance in your dance and life. Please wrap yourself up in cotton wool, and love the daylights out of yourself if this happens.

You have entered a Sacred Space, one that with the sunlight of your consciousness and new attention to it, will start being cleared and healed. And that Room will become familiar, beautiful, warm, cozy and comforting in the years to come. That part of yourself which you had felt locked out of, will integrate, back to wholeness.

Part 3 of this series coming soon.

May all love surround you.

Shemiran xo

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